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| Black Mothers Matter, Too |
 admin writes, "I have a gripe. There's a dominant mommy culture in this country and its face is mostly White and affluent.
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That bothers me because Black mothers have important perspectives, unique insights and many of the same across-the-board issues as all moms. But we are often overlooked in all the great mommy debates. We aren't seen as the thinkers in this Mommy Movement; not respected as an important perspective in shaping the future of, say, maternity leave and childcare issues; nor our journey in motherhood told in cutesy books or network sitcoms.
My fear is that there's some dangerous subliminal messaging here; namely, my job as a Black mother is simple: make sure my children don't become future criminals, gangsta rappers, dog-fighters, teenage mothers or welfare recipients. Our hands are full; let's leave the policy-making and big picture idea-shaping to someone else.
But more strikingly, I fear that Black women are still viewed as breeders, not nurturing mothers; women who "end up" mothers and not those who choose and embrace the path of motherhood. Hey, we're too busy rolling our necks, cussin' or smacking up our kids to take part in esoteric conversations about enacting meaningful legislation that supports mothers.
The last bit of blame falls on us. We have to speak up. We, too, want the best for our children, which includes having better maternity leave options and flex-time schedules that aren't career killers.
The truth is, we are intentional parents with supportive husbands and our relationships are not just baby mama drama. We can learn a little something from our Caucasian sisters here--if they have an issue they will create a community, live or online, in a minute. They will speak up, march or start a foundation and they will be heard.
We can start by viewing our voice as important and demanding to be heard. We can start by rallying together. The world is officially on notice.
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Posted on Apr 21, 2009 21:43pm.
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